In meetings, conversations, and conferences, time and attention are finite resources. I would love for people who have had so many opportunities to speak already given to them to think about what they are taking away from our collective conversations by continuing to dominate them, and to maybe take a step back and suggest someone else for that opportunity to speak instead.

Think about the meetings that you’re in, the tables that you sit at, and I want you to count how many of the people sitting at those tables are people like you. And then ask yourself what you can do to make the tables you sit at more inclusive of and welcoming to people who aren’t like you.

I know that it can feel awkward to start moving outside of your normal circles and comfort zone. But don't expect other people to do this work for you for free as their second or third shift. Let's all help to make our community a stronger and more diverse one, but please don't ask the marginalized individuals in our community to do all the heavy lifting.

When you have shared social activities in your office, really stop to consider if they're opt-in or opt-out. Opt-out activities can be exclusive for people who don't want to participate for whatever reason if there isn't an easy way for them to say no.

Not all “allies” are created equal. Some thoughts on what allyship as ongoing behaviors might look like.